To
the Question of Racial Issues in International Relationships
Dear Gulnara,
In response to your response to my article, I think it
was a misunderstanding: of course we list women of Asian origin, and
we even have one black lady living in Belarus that applied to our service.
Our service caters for people of all races, men as well as women. If
you look through our gentlemen's catalog at http://www.zamuzh.com/men,
you will see men of all races, as well as in our online women's catalog
at http://www.elenasmodels.com you will find many women of Oriental
origin. Clients of all races are welcome in our service.
But according to my experience, Americans in general are very sensitive
to racial issues. First time I have heard about it was when one of my
friends, a very smart and beautiful woman of Korean origin, emigrated
to NY city. She did not marry an American, she emigrated on her own.
She said she had problems with finding men for dating in USA because
she was Asian. Some men would date her but will not introduce her to
their families or think about marriage. Once she was invited to a social
gathering by her boyfriend, and she said she overheard a few sharp remarks
behind her back. The same woman was very popular with men in Russia
(as you of course know, Russian men have many shortcomings but they
are not bothered by racial issues at all). This was my first information
about racial issues in USA "from first hands".
In my work I can also clearly see the tendency towards Caucasian women;
we have many very beautiful girls of Oriental origin in our database,
and they are much less popular than Caucasian ladies. Most American
men do prefer Caucasian women, even when the men themselves are of Oriental
or African origin. Is this nationalism? I do not think so.
We also receive applications from Russian women of Oriental origin that
say they only want to meet a Caucasian man. Is this nationalism or racism?
No, it is not. I think it is just a personal choice.
Men themselves told me many times their interest towards women from
the former USSR was due to their good education and Caucasian appearance.
Every person has his own preferences in appearance, for example, some
men prefer brunettes and some prefer blondes. Some men prefer thin women
and some prefer a little meat on the bones. No one has any objection
about it. But when it is about the color of the skin, and if he says
that he wants to meet a Caucasian woman, then he is a racist.
I think it is all a PERSONAL CHOICE, and has nothing to do with being
a nationalist or racist. I was blamed in discrimination and being a
racist even when I said that a man of Asian origin or a black man will
have less chances with Russian women as they prefer men of their own
race. This is true, we all know that, so why I am a racist? Should I
rather lie? It appears to me that the only way I can avoid this problem
is to say nothing about racial issues at all. Pretend they do not exist.
Personally, I am NOT a racist or nationalist. I believe in equity of
all races, and that every person should be valued due to his or her
real achievements and virtues, and not because of the skin color. I
have many friends of Asian origin back in Russia, and colored friends
here.
But I also think there is nothing wrong in the estimation of the existing
trends. Another way, the way of ostrich - hiding the head in sand in
a danger, does not appeal to me. I think the truth is better than semi-truth
or the absence of information. I believe we are intelligent enough to
call cat a cat.
Best regards,
Elena Petrova
Russian
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